You’re Somebody’s Kink: Notes on Pleasure, Play and Intimacy

What makes some forms of sex more acceptable than others?What is a ‘kink’ but an act of sexual intimacy that is deemed offensive or odd by people you have never met before? You’re Somebody’s Kink examines how we define healthy sex lives and build moments of sexual connection that defy conventional expectations of penovaginal sex with orgasms as their end-goal. Through vulnerable storytelling and provocative insights into the world of kinks, fetishes, and BDSM, the book leaves you with questions that invite you to detach shame from play and redefine affirming and healthy sex with compassion towards yourself and the people you may someday meet.Using a series of candid interviews with vanilla couples, amateur kinksters, and experienced BDSM practitioners, this book takes you on an informative, compassionate, and scintillating journey of looking at sex through a variety of perspectives including queerness, trauma, chronic illness, long-distance love, fears of ageing, and more. It serves as undeniable proof that sexuality is meant to be ever-changing and that you will always be someone’s dream come true.